Freezing the conversation in talking about events – those that either do or do not qualify as trauma – or,  more accurately, that qualify us for treatment-  is itself traumatizing. It freezes us in a state of disempowered and disconnected state.

Sometimes what happens – is happening to affect us that way is so subtle, pervasive, endemic that we forget or blind ourselves and each other to awareness that it affecting us that way.

We can’t do much about what happened.

We can stop telling lies.
We can stop telling people who are struggling to feel safe in the world that they have a disorder, illness, biological deficit

We can learn to accept and understand how what did happen and especially how left us feeling unsafe in this world.
We can understand how that leaves us experiencing this world as one in which it is difficult to feel safe. 

We can heal.