“The most difficult and traumatic memories are stored in non-verbal, bodily memory”
Bessel Van der Kolk
“Creating words for these emotions is a fundamentally important activity.
For these words to be found, the feelings have to be endured.
Employing the power of human relationships to hold powerful emotions, network members are encouraged to sustain intense painful emotions of sadness, helplessness and hopelessness.
A dialogical process is necessary condition for making this possible.”
-Jaakko Seikkula, Tom Erik Arnkil: Open Dialogues in Social Networks
And also (from the philosophical term dialectics) my comments perhaps elaborate on the importance of ‘dialogue’: which is the externalization of an ‘internal’ process of healing, which I still hold can possibly never be spoken. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialogic_learning
And sometimes ‘this happens’, when ‘words are not enough’!!! http://www.upworthy.com/this-researcher-who-studies-self-injury-explains-why-people-do-it-and-why-he-did-it?c=upw1&u=22cefdbefda1f869b8cfd67a9859f02966e85349
I don’t know about this. Possibly there is ‘no other choice’ but to ‘endure’ the ‘pain’. Will the words come? Will the memories, which can often be difficult to distinguish from possible imaginations (this has been clarified through research, and can be related to associations I remember in the 80’s 90’s of identification with such generalizations which were headline news but primarily discredited.) That is but one reason, within what I feel is a very difficult and complicated topic, of why I believe that cognitive therapy and (Buddhist-like?) meditation, and talk therapy are more promising than drug therapy, particularly MDMA and even (yes!) pot. Not only that, but for many personal, internal experience, I don’t believe that any words are actually, explicitly available. Language, generally is directed primarily to external events. That a prime reason why metaphor etc. etc. is the language of poetry, and the inner world of the psyche.